I now open my Heart to Love.
To Self Love, Divine Love to Soulmate Love.
I open myself for all blocks to be removed and my path to Love. I ask for this Journey, this Process be made in Ease, in Grace, Pleasurable, and Joyful. I surrender to you completely on this path. I open my Mind, my Heart, my Body, my Soul, my Life to recieve Love from within and magnetize Love magically.
I invite your Divine support and guidance on my path, and I open my Inner Light. For the Love we already share in Spirit, in Heaven, to be here on Earth. To keep me centered in Faith and Trust and Gratitude. To guide us to eachother to support me on my Journey. I surrender to you, all I have, and all I have experienced on this path.
I open, I open, I open.
I recieve, I recieve, I recieve.
I invite your Divinity to do for me what I can not do for myself. I open to the Divinity within myself. I invite sacred partnership who is whole within yourself equally connected to your Divinity. My Divine partner, together. In this sacred union committed to eachother and ourselves.
I am open.
My Heart to Trust, to Faith, and Welcome Miracles in my Divine Love on Earth as we are connected in Soul.
I am ready.
Phases of the Red Cycle
- Menstrual – when you are bleeding
- Follicular – ovaries start creating follicles containing immature eggs
- Ovulation – a mature egg gets sent into the uterine tube looking to be fertilize by sperm
- Luteal – if a mature egg is fertilized it will travel to the uterus to implant; if not, the lining of the uterus will shed and start you period
- Stay hydrated
- Apply heat and or take a warm bath
- Stretch and exercise
- make time for self care
- Masturbate (orgasms help relieve cramps!)
- Eat enough protein and healthy veggies
- Rest & breathe
Follicular/ Ovulatory Phase
- Vaginal steam
- Monitor cravings and opt for healthy alternatives
- Stay active
- Prep for your next cycle
- Stay hydrated
- Eat well avoid salty and processed foods
- Monitor your use of caffeine and alcohol up iron, omega, and B12 intake
- Consider also take a multivitamin that includes calcium, vitamin C & magnesium
- Start using herbs that help you
- Prep for your cycle
Menstruation ends you will often experience some days of dryness and then the discharge may take on a yellowish tinge and becomes rubbery and thick. It is likely to dry quickly and leave streaks rather than wet patches. This thick texture actually helps to block sperm, like a natural spermicide.
Humans are NOT fertile every day of our cycle. The cervical mucus then starts to turn white and opaque. It is still too thick to be fertile mucus but it let’s you know that ovulation (which only lasts 24 hours) is coming soon and you should start having sex if your intention is to procreate because the sperm can be kept dormant in cervical ‘crypts’ for 5+ days until ovulation occurs.
At ovulation the mucus will turn sticky, clear and stretchy similar to semen. This is when you know you are fertile. It has a very stretchy egg white consistency and a high water content that could leave wet patches. It also does not have a smell. This mucus helps the sperm to get to the egg but it is the egg that decides which one/s can approach. Precaution: any unusual smells, colour, itchiness burning and or lumps in both men and woman are likely should get checked for infection or bacteria).
Ovulation lasts only 24 hours and then the fertile
PolyCystic Ovary Syndrome
Dysmenorrhea – cramping pains caused by womb spasms
Menorrhagia – excessive flow also sometimes used for irregularity and clotting
- For overall menstrual problems: Dong quai (Angelica oylvestris)
- For heavy periods: raspberry leaf, American cranesbill, lady’s mantle, yarrow, cramp bark, wild yam, white peony and black haw.
- For irregular cycle: Agnus castus or motherwort
- For heavy menstrual bleeding: chuang xiong ( Ligusticum wallachii) , white peony, Chinese Angelica, Rehmannia – all roots – mixed together they are called ‘four things soup’ – a Chinese remedy. Shepherds purse and nettle.
- Aromatherapy for cramps: clary sage, chamomile, marjoram, peppermint, lavender, valerian, ginger, sage, red thyme, nutmeg, rose, melissa, geranium, neroli, rosemary, cardomom, cinnamon leaf.
- Aromatherapy for heavy bleeding: cypress, geranium, rose, yarrow, chamomile (Roman), lavender, lemon.
The Red & White Cycle and The Moon
Full Moon and New Moon
Begin period with the Full Moon, ovulate with the New Moon. This is a cycle where you’re being called to focus on career. Things outside the home. Emotionally/spiritually healing yourself and others.
Begin period with the New Moon, ovulate with the Full Moon. This is a cycle ripe for fertility and conceiving a child. Being called to focus on motherhood/family/the home.
Inner Seasons of the Cycle
Matron Autumn Pre-menstruation: day 20-26
- truth speaking
- inner critic
- holding the tension
- slowing down
Wise Woman Winter Menstruation: day 27-5
- releasing, shedding, purifying
- stillness and solitude
- acceptance and surrender
- inner guidance
- forgiveness of self and others
Mother Summer Ovulation: day 12-19
- high energy
- taking charge
- motherly energy
- in the flow
Maiden Spring Luteal: day 6-11
- innocence & playfulness
- imagination & possibility
- surging energy/life
- motivation & enthusiasm
The Cycles Femininity and Masculinity
- life giving
- sacrifice self
- shape shifting
- return to source
There are 13 weeks per Season (between a Solstice & Equinox or vice versa). There are 13 months in ancient Lunar calander and 13 degrees of movement in the Moons passage.
Venus has an 8-year cycle with 13 revolutions, including 5 synodic periods, or alignments of the Earth, Venus, and the Sun that are 19 months long (1.6 years) to creation. Throughout this 8 year cycle, Venus dances through the sky in 2 different phases, known as the Descent and Ascent Phase, named in relation to her proximity with the Sun and the Moon.
In her Morning Star phase, she Ascents before the Sun as the Venus-Moon Conjunctions is in the Waning phase of the Moon cycle. In her Descent phase she moves deeper from our view on Earth, to return and rise again, shifting into her Ascent phase. In her Descent phase, Venus returns as the Evening Star rising before the Sun as the Venus-Moon Conjunctions is in the Waxing phase of the Moon cycle.
Within 7 days is a day of presence within. Each day holds a unique awaking in daily living.
Circadian Rhythm is the solar cycle to which natural occurs within 24 hours starting with the sunrise of energy to the alert and productive day and then to the ideal happy hour afternoon until the restorative evening sunset.
- Sunday – The Sun – Solar power, success, personal empowerment, material wealth, health, beginning anew.
- Monday – The Moon – Lunar power, purity, spiritual cleansing, astral work, divination, psychic ability.
- Tuesday – Mars – Physical power, passion, sexuality, drive, ambition, achievement, masculine power, activate protective talismans, reverse hexes and psychic attacks.
- Wednesday – Mercury – Knowledge, money, communication, the arts, change, acceptance, adaptability.
- Thursday – Jupiter – Luck, growth, fulfillment, worldly power, justice, authority, health, and prosperity. (Mercury brings quick cash, but Jupiter governs the long term accumulation and preservation of wealth.)
- Friday – Venus – Fertility, love, money, prosperity, healing, charm, goodness, blocking, glamour, self care, feminine power.
- Saturday – Saturn – Binding, banishing, stopping, ending, loss, renewing, transforming, protection.
Words of Affirmation: Communication, Consideration, Respect
Physical Touch: Intimacy, Care, Comfort
Quality Time: Companionship, Play, Closeness
Acts of Service: Security, Stability, Participation
Receiving Gifts: To be seen, Celebration, Care
Enhances self reflection and evaluation, opening pathways of intimate communication with Self & others.
Stimulates creative sparks of passion, genius, and artistry while mood elevating prior to application of adornments such as makeup, scents, pre-workout, make-out, and love sessions. To invoke loving relationships and being into your life, Cacao (Theobroma cacao) is a delectable, heart-opening, and deeply compassionate, connecting plant ally.
One of the components in Cacao is phenylethylamine, or PEA, which induces feelings of attraction, euphoria, and falling in love. When taken mindfully and in a sacred context, grows and maintains our level of PEA. Higher PEA levels means that we are feeling good in our bodies and minds, paying close attention to the world around us especially those we are attracted to on an emotional, intellectual, and physical level.
Increases personal power, attraction, manifestation, sensuality and love.
Dragon’s Blood resin is harvested from the rattan palm tree Daemonorops Draco in Sumatra. Used in spiritual and healing rituals for centuries, as a smudge Dragon’s Blood adds power to and amplifies your intention. Use this passionate red resin to Increase your power, attraction, and to & rekindle love and sensuality in relationships that need extra attention. Mix and match it with any other incense, resin or smudge to supercharge your powers of attraction.
In conditioned lovemaking, there is an end goal, and when that goal is realized, this particular sensual experience is over.
In conscious lovemaking, solo or with a partner(s), breath, slowness, edging, practicing scrotal and ovarian/ vaginal compression, exploration of your pelvis, perineum and prostate. Presence is the keys to expand our ecstatic energy and spread it throughout the whole body. You transcend into the ecstatic experience that melts away the body armor. There is no past, no future, only the present moment. Connecting with the flow of energy.
The Innate realization of Self as totally separate from the objective reality due to the realization of Emptiness at the Heart.
Change arises when focused at the External reality as Life Ascends to the center of the Crown. Realizing the Self contains all Infinity within descends from the Crown to the Heart. Spirit of all exist within. Life force is together at the Heart. Realizing the Mind transcends all forms, life force in the central channel. Realization you and everything within and without is
The highest Enlightenment.
“CHOOOOO” is the sound frequency associated with gentleness in the Kidneys.
“HAWWWWWW” is the sound frequency associated with turning emotions in the Heart to love and joyfulness.
“SHHHHHHH” is the sound frequency associated with transforming emotional energy in the Liver into kindness.
“HEEEEEEEE” is the sound frequency associated with balance of our Upper, Middle, and Lower energy centers of our whole Bodies.
“WOOOOO” is the sound frequency associated with emotional energy in the Spleen to generosity and gentleness.
“SSSSSSSS” is the sound frequency associated with courage in the Lungs.
“LAAAMMM” i s the sound frequency associated with the Root Chakra (Mudlahara) located at the base of the Spine and Perineum. Associated with emotions of safety and survival.
“VAAAMMM” is the sound frequency associated with Sacral Chakra (Swadhisthana) located on your Hips and Low Back. Associated with emotional energy and Creativity.
“RAAAMMM” is the sound frequency associated with Solar Plexus (Manipura) located below the Naval. Associated with Will Power.
The ability to Understand, manage Self Awareness and Social Awareness by Expressing your Emotions in your Relationships to Others.
The amazing ability to tune into your creativity and your Sacral Chakra. You are able to tap into your Feminine Flow and be in a space to access creative intelligence with ease.
The ability to see beyond the Human Experience. Your ability to be conscious of the possibility of multiple realities. This might include your ability to connect with Angels, Guides and Spirits.
The ability to judge social situations well and navigate them. You are highly attuned to people’s needs with great emotional intelligence and interpersonal skills.
Having high sensory abilities particularly in heightened Intuitive, Creative and Visionary abilities.
• Physical Body
• Astral Body
• Life Force
• Spiritual Soul
“YAAAMMM” is the sound frequency associated with the Heart Chakra (Anahata) located at the Heart and upper back of the Spine and Perineum. Associated with emotions of Love.
“HAAAMMM” is the sound frequency associated with the Throat Chakra (Vishuddha) located on your Throat. Associated with emotional vocal expression.
“AAAUUMM” is the sound frequency associated with the Third Eye Chakra (Ajnaya) located in-between the Eyebrows. Associated with intuition and wisdom.
“AHOOHMMM” is the sound frequency associated with the Crown Chakra (Sahasrara) located on top of you Head. Associated with spiritual connection.
174 Hertz : Removes Pain
285 Hertz : Influences Energy Field
396 Hertz : Liberates you of Fear & Guilt
417 Hertz : Facilitates Change
432 & 528 Hertz : Miracle Tone of Nature
928 Hertz : Repairs DNA
639 Hertz : Heals Relationships
741 Hertz : Awakens Intuition
852 Hertz : Attracts Soul Tribe
963 Hertz : Connects with Light & Spirit
Flow and lightness of being removes energetic blockages allowing radiance of every moment, deepening connection of selfless service cultivating inner Peace. Sensual, Playful Energy, Physical Power Balanced; Closeness with clarity of Spirit.
Woman is the Goddess therefore connecting with the Goddess first become God. Expressions are honored by responsibilities of mutual needs being met with supporting higher-self, working through discomfort and vulnerability. Higher-self in Higher living through your body, experiencing all desires with full Belief and Awareness. Energy always follows your intentions. There is nothing greater in this existence than sharing Love. There is nothing but Love. Love is everything that is.
Just look at each other eyes for 10 minutes with this feeling that I have never seen before. My partner continues to change every day. And you don’t have time to see it. Look at this woman as a new woman. Because this woman changes every day. See what is new in this woman, what is new in this man. Each day, a new enthusiasm will come, now try to get to know each other again. Touch is the most basic essence of showing Love. When you touch someone with purity, with genuine compassion you are telling the other individual that in the moment, you are totally present. Simply the presence with the other individual is like a gift to you. Sometimes very passionate touch with full of Strength be wild and very juicy and sometimes just very lovingly caressing touch as you are the Divine. Be present as creativity flows with Love.
PARTNER CIRCULAR BREATHING
Help your partner get comfortable in the traditional lotus position, with legs crossed and each of the heels atop the opposite knee. Facing each other, sit in lap and mount, with your legs wrapped snugly around your partners waist. Embrace each other and lock lips with a shared breath, so that as you exhale your partner inhales and vice versa. As you breathe in, rock your pelvis back and tighten your vaginal muscles. As you exhale, rock your pelvis forward and release. Your partner should mirror your movements. Syncing up your breathing and moving together while in this position deepen your Kundalini Energy.
Making Love is an act of God. It’s an art where passion, pleasure and mediation merge. Accept yourself and make a completely healthy and a balanced connection between Lingam ( Penis) / Yoni (Vagina) and heart with promise to be real and authentic. Raw and potent sexual energy at the same time emotional and humble (heart connection). This balance will only come from Love and Respect without criticism of your heart. You can be feminine and powerful. And also you can have masculine qualities more and be powerful. That’s upto you, which ever way you prefer. The main aim is to be true and grounded to yourself.
Free yourself from any kind of shame of your body, sexual shame or emotional, mental trauma. Listen and understand your feelings. Understand how you feel around certain things, people, places and eliminate everything which doesn’t serve in transforming to the Divine Being you are. Like a cherished, abundant life receiving love in it’s truest form. Develop yourself as a real Man and Awakening of your Strength, with more Clarity and Courage in Life. Leave the false ideas & knowledge about yourself. Embrace your Sexual and Sensual power, your wild nature, be courageous and live truth. Communication with a Woman like a Man and share your Truth and Clarity. When you are in complete harmony in your Heart and Womb, then Love, Trust and Care follows. Naturally, You bow down to Her and the energy will reached to the heart. Your Queen, and you surrender Her as a King.
The only thing you need to believe in yourself. Simply watching everything with out any judgement and attachment. Observe all your patterns, games, understand the mind play and come out of it. See what works for you — any healing workshop, meditation or something else. Find your way that can help you to be master of your mind. The natural healing happens when you are leaving all technique with the idea of, I’m a healer. Helping happens when you drop your ego. Just be with your receiver as an empty channel. Healing happens by itself, When –
1. Your attitude of service with complete silence inside.
2. Your unconditional love and devotion.
3. You are with there , with Your meditative presence.
4. Your being brings healing to the life of people around you.
LET GO of the Belief that it is our partners who give us orgasms. Yes, having a partner might make this experience more intense, a partner can open us up only to the degree that we are already open. A partner is capable of Holding Space for that opening to reveal itself.
LET GO of the Belief that orgasm is a response to stimulation. Thus the need to Learn to Inhabit Our Bodies. Instead relax into our Body, releasing any agenda, of the goal of orgasm, and drop into any sensation that is Present…I invite you to drop into your Body, drop deeper and deeper through a continuous relaxation, of softening, allowance to your Jaw, your Belly, your Pelvis, all the clenched places, and to all of Life. Doing so, we would be opening ourselves to Life, to the mystery, and therefore – to Love.
Both sexual and non-sexual Pleasure are an orgasmic Awareness. This is your capacity to observe and witness yourself with full Presents. Sexuality with Awareness transforms itself into a Spiritual Practice that creates deeper experience of the Present moment. Awareness is a highly potent Aphrodisiac, awakening the Body on an inner level noticing how much Pleasure there is outwardly in our Life. I invite you to see even the slightest pleasure as an orgasm, even if a tiny little one. Train yourself to be aware of even the slightest Pleasure felt in your Body: the wind touching your skin, warmth in your genitals, delicious feeling when you stretch your neck… All of it is your gateway to a deeper Pleasure.
Deep Breath and Breathe deeper, slower than you normally would. With every Inhalation soften your body more and with every Exhalation relax deeper and let go.
Whether you are practicing self-pleasure or are sensually or sexually connecting with your beloved, elongate your breath. The breath is the carrier of Life. If we are not breathing fully, we are not allowing Life to fully reveal itself through us. All your emotions naturally flow, and that’s what they do when we don’t try repress them. They change, shape-shift, release, move and help us open up. I invite you to notice what emotions are coming up for you, try allowing them. Allow the experience of emotion to be present and stay with emotional intensity as this is very orgasmic experience.
If you are not used to it, it might feel quite intimidating or uncomfortable to make sound. You can begin by making a gentle “a” sound on the Exhalation, it doesn’t have to be very loud. Sound works from within the body, and spreads the vibration helping the energy spread and rise to the level of the Heart and Throat. As you make sound you activate Life in you. Breath, Sound and Movement are the three anchors that we have full access to at all times, and all three activates Life in us. As you relax and soften your Body, as you Breathe deeper, this becomes a natural spontaneous delicious Movement to arise from inside. This sensuality helps us generate more energy in ourselves allowing this energy to move through us. I invite you to spread this sensation, the Pleasure the Movement in your Body to open you up to incredible full body orgasm.
Yoni is a Sanskrit word for Vulva, and Lingam for Penis. Our genitals are the seat of our sexual energy, it is our place of power, both immense for Soul and receptivity for woman as the Breasts and Chest are the physical extension of Heart. Sensuality flows, of and in an open Heart. If we have not done any conscious work on activating our genitals in most cases they are numb resulting from the disconnect that historically surrounds sexuality due to societal taboos, shame, and conditioning. I invite you to bring Awareness to our genitals a place where we rest. By exploring, touching, and massaging them. As you activate your sexuality, a lot more of your sexual power becomes available to you, and therefore – deeper orgasms become accessible.
Trust is based on a deep Inner knowing that you are taken care of by the Divine. There is Wisdom even in things that don’t seem to be desirable. When we can see that, it means that we know what is Trust. I invite you to Trust a Deep Life changing Love we completely open to.
Increased release of the hormone oxytocin, progesterone, estrogen, serotonin, an melatonin. In which helps the uterus to normal size and encourages bonding. Increasing in CRH, a stress-reducing hormone. A decrease in post-partum depression levels. Restoration of iron levels in the blood and increase in milk production.
The placenta serves the functions of organs such as the lungs, kidneys, and liver until child develops them. Some of the main functions that the placenta performs include
- Respiratory, excretory, nutritive, endocrine, barrier function, immunological function.
- Supplying oxygen and output of CO2 is done via simple diffusion (respiratory) and nutrients to the baby via the umbilical cord (nutritive).
- Clearing out waste products, such as urea, creatinine, uric acid from the fetus (excretory).
- Metabolizing and releasing food substances and required products into the maternal and fetal blood circulations.
- Protecting the baby from xenobiotics (compounds including food additives, drugs, and environmental pollutants).
- Producing steroid and peptide hormones that help in the growth and development of the baby (endocrine).
- Protecting the baby from infections (bacterial) and maternal diseases.
- Fetal membrane protects the transfer of noxious substances less than 500 dalton except antibody and antigen (barrier).
- Produces different enzymes such as diamine oxidase and oxytocinase (enzymatic).
Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
Cherub Birthing Plan
- Birth: Home, Undisturbed, Hypnosis/meditative, hospital, water, VBAC
- Support: midwife, doula
- Labor Prep: spontaneous birth start, no vaginal exam, no pitocin
- Environment: birth ball, dim lights, soft music, photos, limit visitors
- Labor Augmentation: natural induction method, natural water release, hands off
- Hydration and Nourishment: food and fruits, no iv, hep lock
- Movement and Monitoring: free movement, no baby monitoring, intermittent baby monitoring
- Pain Management Preferences: no discomfort scale, nitrous oxide, no medication, epidural
- Pushing: no coached pushing, no vacuum or forceps, perineum support, no episotomy
- Birth and After Birth: catch own baby, don’t announce sex, golden hour, don’t whipe vernix, natural third stage, no fundal pressure, no CCT, lotus birth, delayed cord clamping, partner to cut cord
- Newborn Procedures: no bath, no vitamin k, oral vitamin k, no hep b shots, no eye ointment, delayed baby exam, no circumcision/ forced , retraction
- Feeding: breastfeeding, no bottle or formula, no pacifer
- Unexpected Labor Events: explained procedures, emergency c-section
Spend some time visualizing your birth. Light a candle, make yourself some red raspberry leaf tea (3rd trimester only). Honor yourself to taking the time to be present with your body and your baby.
- Benefits: What are the benefits of this procedure? What are we hoping to achieve?
- Risks: What are the risks? What other interventions will go along with this?
- Alternatives: What are other options?
- Intuition: What is your gut saying? Do you need to ask for additional information?
- Nothing: What if we do nothing or wait a while before deciding?
- How do I want to feel at my birth?
- What do I need to feel supported during labor?
- Who do I want present at my birth?
- What is my birth philosophy?
- What does the term empowered birth mean to me?
- What are my birth fears?
- How can I seek support to work through those fears?
Benkung Belly Binding
Is a traditional postpartum practice in India, China & Malaysia and many other countries. It is the art of wrapping a women’s belly and hips after birth for physical support and to help fasten the recovery process after childbirth. This technique uses a very long and narrow strip of muslin cloth that is wrapped firmly but gently around the abdomen from the hips to the ribcage. Traditionally it is worn for 44 days confinement but can also be worn for a minimum of 5 days up until 6 months postpartum. Belly binding helps to close and seal the experience of pregnancy and birth.
Fenugreek: Is a galactagogue – or a milk-making substance. There are many causes of low milk supply, and having tea isn’t the be all and end all solution, so if you’re struggling with milk supply I always recommend talking to a lactation consultant first to see if there’s a biomechanical issue. However, for many breastfeeding people, lactation teas provide just enough of a boost to keep them going. You might want to try lactation teas with fenugreek to boost supply if: You are returning to work and need to boost you supply, if you are stocking your freezer, if you feel like you need support to maintain your supply, if you are tandem nursing, and if you have a temporary dip in supply due to menstruation, illness, or baby growth spurt.
Schisandra: Your body is particularly prone to infections following birth, whether you deliver vaginally or via c-section. Avoiding any vaginal penetration, including tampons, for 6 weeks following birth to avoid an infection. Using adaptogens to boost your immune system can help fight off infections that enter the body. Packed with antioxidants and polyphenols, schisandra is a great natural defence mechanism to fend off infections. This is also a great herb to help with postpartum healing.
Holy Basil (Tulsi): The baby blues is a natural, hormonal process that can really impact postpartum enjoyment. Adaptogens have mood boosting properties that can help counter some of the emotional roller coaster that comes along with the process. Holy basil is also a galactagogue and can be helpful to induce milk supply.
Ginseng Root: First off, there are a few forms of ginseng. Panax ginseng is not safe for nursing, but Siberian or Indian ginseng is. Ginseng is recommended once bleeding stops as an energy replenishing herb. Adaptogens are not stimulants, in which can crash, thus having addictive effects.
Moringa: Has anti-inflammatory properties, such as isothiocyanates, flavonoids, and phenolic acid, so consider this your natural Advil. It’s also a galactagogue, helping boost your milk supply. It’s extremely rich in nutrients, which can help with the postpartum depletion that occurs after blood loss in birth. Nutrients like calcium, protein, potassium, iron, zinc and vitamins A, B and C are all so important for postpartum healing.
• Antibacterial plants: Sage, Thyme, Rosemary
• Uterine Toners: Witch Hazel Leaf/Bark, Mugwort, Red Clover
• Anodynes: Rose Petals, Chamomile, Calendula and Lavender
• Anti-inflammatory plants: Yarrow, St. John’s Wort, Frankincense
• Epson salts also are a great addition to herbal soaks & baths
Reclaiming Orgasm After Birth
Take a Look: Grab a hand mirror and inspect your vulva and vaginal entrance
Light Touch: start lightly pressing on your labia and the entrance of your vaginal/perineum
Internal Touch and Pull: hook thumb or finger just inside your vaginal entrance and lightly pull up
Scar Tissue Desensitization: using your thumb or tool, start to massage, pull, and stretch h the scar
Own Your O: have one yourself and have awareness of how your muscles are functioning and blood flow movement
Support: have support partner