Holding space is a big part of an internal place of energetic openness in which awareness can move. A way to help find our own medicine.
When you hold space for someone, it means you create a container in your consciousness, for that person to release what they need to.
Trust, listen, and receive what they are communicating without judgment.
You allow one another space for whatever is happening and help that energy to move.
Phases of the Red Cycle
- Menstrual – when you are bleeding
- Follicular – ovaries start creating follicles containing immature eggs
- Ovulation – a mature egg gets sent into the uterine tube looking to be fertilize by sperm
- Luteal – if a mature egg is fertilized it will travel to the uterus to implant; if not, the lining of the uterus will shed and start you period
- Stay hydrated
- Apply heat and or take a warm bath
- Stretch and exercise
- make time for self care
- Masturbate (orgasms help relieve cramps!)
- Eat enough protein and healthy veggies
- Rest & breathe
Follicular/ Ovulatory Phase
- Vaginal steam
- Monitor cravings and opt for healthy alternatives
- Stay active
- Prep for your next cycle
- Stay hydrated
- Eat well avoid salty and processed foods
- Monitor your use of caffeine and alcohol up iron, omega, and B12 intake
- Consider also take a multivitamin that includes calcium, vitamin C & magnesium
- Start using herbs that help you
- Prep for your cycle
Menstruation ends you will often experience some days of dryness and then the discharge may take on a yellowish tinge and becomes rubbery and thick. It is likely to dry quickly and leave streaks rather than wet patches. This thick texture actually helps to block sperm, like a natural spermicide.
Humans are NOT fertile every day of our cycle. The cervical mucus then starts to turn white and opaque. It is still too thick to be fertile mucus but it let’s you know that ovulation (which only lasts 24 hours) is coming soon and you should start having sex if your intention is to procreate because the sperm can be kept dormant in cervical ‘crypts’ for 5+ days until ovulation occurs.
At ovulation the mucus will turn sticky, clear and stretchy similar to semen. This is when you know you are fertile. It has a very stretchy egg white consistency and a high water content that could leave wet patches. It also does not have a smell. This mucus helps the sperm to get to the egg but it is the egg that decides which one/s can approach. Precaution: any unusual smells, colour, itchiness burning and or lumps in both men and woman are likely should get checked for infection or bacteria).
Ovulation lasts only 24 hours and then the fertile
PolyCystic Ovary Syndrome
Dysmenorrhea – cramping pains caused by womb spasms
Menorrhagia – excessive flow also sometimes used for irregularity and clotting
- For overall menstrual problems: Dong quai (Angelica oylvestris)
- For heavy periods: raspberry leaf, American cranesbill, lady’s mantle, yarrow, cramp bark, wild yam, white peony and black haw.
- For irregular cycle: Agnus castus or motherwort
- For heavy menstrual bleeding: chuang xiong ( Ligusticum wallachii) , white peony, Chinese Angelica, Rehmannia – all roots – mixed together they are called ‘four things soup’ – a Chinese remedy. Shepherds purse and nettle.
- Aromatherapy for cramps: clary sage, chamomile, marjoram, peppermint, lavender, valerian, ginger, sage, red thyme, nutmeg, rose, melissa, geranium, neroli, rosemary, cardomom, cinnamon leaf.
- Aromatherapy for heavy bleeding: cypress, geranium, rose, yarrow, chamomile (Roman), lavender, lemon.
The Red & White Cycle and The Moon
Full Moon and New Moon
Begin period with the Full Moon, ovulate with the New Moon. This is a cycle where you’re being called to focus on career. Things outside the home. Emotionally/spiritually healing yourself and others.
Begin period with the New Moon, ovulate with the Full Moon. This is a cycle ripe for fertility and conceiving a child. Being called to focus on motherhood/family/the home.
Inner Seasons of the Cycle
Matron Autumn Pre-menstruation: day 20-26
- truth speaking
- inner critic
- holding the tension
- slowing down
Wise Woman Winter Menstruation: day 27-5
- releasing, shedding, purifying
- stillness and solitude
- acceptance and surrender
- inner guidance
- forgiveness of self and others
Mother Summer Ovulation: day 12-19
- high energy
- taking charge
- motherly energy
- in the flow
Maiden Spring Luteal: day 6-11
- innocence & playfulness
- imagination & possibility
- surging energy/life
- motivation & enthusiasm
The Cycles Femininity and Masculinity
- life giving
- sacrifice self
- shape shifting
- return to source
Within 7 days is a day of presence within. Each day holds a unique awaking in daily living.
Circadian Rhythm is the solar cycle to which natural occurs within 24 hours starting with the sunrise of energy to the alert and productive day and then to the ideal happy hour afternoon until the restorative evening sunset.
- Sunday – The Sun – Solar power, success, personal empowerment, material wealth, health, beginning anew.
- Monday – The Moon – Lunar power, purity, spiritual cleansing, astral work, divination, psychic ability.
- Tuesday – Mars – Physical power, passion, sexuality, drive, ambition, achievement, masculine power, activate protective talismans, reverse hexes and psychic attacks.
- Wednesday – Mercury – Knowledge, money, communication, the arts, change, acceptance, adaptability.
- Thursday – Jupiter – Luck, growth, fulfillment, worldly power, justice, authority, health, and prosperity. (Mercury brings quick cash, but Jupiter governs the long term accumulation and preservation of wealth.)
- Friday – Venus – Fertility, love, money, prosperity, healing, charm, goodness, blocking, glamour, self care, feminine power.
- Saturday – Saturn – Binding, banishing, stopping, ending, loss, renewing, transforming, protection.
Words of Affirmation: Communication, Consideration, Respect
Physical Touch: Intimacy, Care, Comfort
Quality Time: Companionship, Play, Closeness
Acts of Service: Security, Stability, Participation
Receiving Gifts: To be seen, Celebration, Care
Enhances self reflection and evaluation, opening pathways of intimate communication with Self & others.
Stimulates creative sparks of passion, genius, and artistry while mood elevating prior to application of adornments such as makeup, scents, pre-workout, make-out, and love sessions. To invoke loving relationships and being into your life, Cacao (Theobroma cacao) is a delectable, heart-opening, and deeply compassionate, connecting plant ally.
One of the components in Cacao is phenylethylamine, or PEA, which induces feelings of attraction, euphoria, and falling in love. When taken mindfully and in a sacred context, grows and maintains our level of PEA. Higher PEA levels means that we are feeling good in our bodies and minds, paying close attention to the world around us especially those we are attracted to on an emotional, intellectual, and physical level.
Increases personal power, attraction, manifestation, sensuality and love.
Dragon’s Blood resin is harvested from the rattan palm tree Daemonorops Draco in Sumatra. Used in spiritual and healing rituals for centuries, as a smudge Dragon’s Blood adds power to and amplifies your intention. Use this passionate red resin to Increase your power, attraction, and to & rekindle love and sensuality in relationships that need extra attention. Mix and match it with any other incense, resin or smudge to supercharge your powers of attraction.
In conditioned lovemaking, there is an end goal, and when that goal is realized, this particular sensual experience is over.
In conscious lovemaking, solo or with a partner(s), breath, slowness, edging, practicing scrotal and ovarian/ vaginal compression, exploration of your pelvis, perineum and prostate. Presence is the keys to expand our ecstatic energy and spread it throughout the whole body. You transcend into the ecstatic experience that melts away the body armor. There is no past, no future, only the present moment. Connecting with the flow of energy.
Increased release of the hormone oxytocin, progesterone, estrogen, serotonin, an melatonin. which helps the uterus to normal size and encourages bonding. Increase in CRH, a stress-reducing hormone. A decrease in post-partum depression levels. Restoration of iron levels in the blood and increase in milk production.
The placenta serves the functions of organs such as the lungs, kidneys, and liver until child develops them. Some of the main functions that the placenta performs include
- Respiratory, excretory, nutritive, endocrine, barrier function, immunological function.
- Supplying oxygen and output of co2 is done via simple diffusion (respiratory) and nutrients to the baby via the umbilical cord (nutritive).
- Clearing out waste products, such as urea, creatinine, uric acid from the fetus (excretory).
- Metabolizing and releasing food substances and required products into the maternal and fetal blood circulations.
- Protecting the baby from xenobiotics (compounds including food additives, drugs, and environmental pollutants).
- Producing steroid and peptide hormones that help in the growth and development of the baby (endocrine).
- Protecting the baby from infections (bacterial) and maternal diseases.
- Fetal membrane protects the transfer of noxious substances less than 500 dalton except antibody and antigen (barrier).
- Produces different enzymes such as diamine oxidase and oxytocinase (enzymatic).
Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
Cherub Birthing Plan
- Birth: Home, Undisturbed, Hypnosis/meditative, hospital, water, VBAC
- Support: midwife, doula
- Labor Prep: spontaneous birth start, no vaginal exam, no pitocin
- Environment: birth ball, dim lights, soft music, photos, limit visitors
- Labor Augmentation: natural induction method, natural water release, hands off
- Hydration and Nourishment: food and fruits, no iv, hep lock
- Movement and Monitoring: free movement, no baby monitoring, intermittent baby monitoring
- Pain Management Preferences: no discomfort scale, nitrous oxide, no medication, epidural
- Pushing: no coached pushing, no vacuum or forceps, perineum support, no episotomy
- Birth and After Birth: catch own baby, don’t announce sex, golden hour, don’t whipe vernix, natural third stage, no fundal pressure, no CCT, lotus birth, delayed cord clamping, partner to cut cord
- Newborn Procedures: no bath, no vitamin k, oral vitamin k, no hep b shots, no eye ointment, delayed baby exam, no circumcision/ forced , retraction
- Feeding: breastfeeding, no bottle or formula, no pacifer
- Unexpected Labor Events: explained procedures, emergency c-section
Spend some time visualizing your birth. Light a candle, make yourself some red raspberry leaf tea (3rd trimester only). Honor yourself to taking the time to be present with your body and your baby.
- Benefits: What are the benefits of this procedure? What are we hoping to achieve?
- Risks: What are the risks? What other interventions will go along with this?
- Alternatives: What are other options?
- Intuition: What is your gut saying? Do you need to ask for additional information?
- Nothing: What if we do nothing or wait a while before deciding?
- How do I want to feel at my birth?
- What do I need to feel supported during labor?
- Who do I want present at my birth?
- What is my birth philosophy?
- What does the term empowered birth mean to me?
- What are my birth fears?
- How can I seek support to work through those fears?
Benkung Belly Binding
Is a traditional postpartum practice in India, China & Malaysia and many other countries. It is the art of wrapping a women’s belly and hips after birth for physical support and to help fasten the recovery process after childbirth. This technique uses a very long and narrow strip of muslin cloth that is wrapped firmly but gently around the abdomen from the hips to the ribcage. Traditionally it is worn for 44 days confinement but can also be worn for a minimum of 5 days up until 6 months postpartum. Belly binding helps to close and seal the experience of pregnancy and birth.
Fenugreek: Is a galactagogue – or a milk-making substance. There are many causes of low milk supply, and having tea isn’t the be all and end all solution, so if you’re struggling with milk supply I always recommend talking to a lactation consultant first to see if there’s a biomechanical issue. However, for many breastfeeding people, lactation teas provide just enough of a boost to keep them going. You might want to try lactation teas with fenugreek to boost supply if: You are returning to work and need to boost you supply, if you are stocking your freezer, if you feel like you need support to maintain your supply, if you are tandem nursing, and if you have a temporary dip in supply due to menstruation, illness, or baby growth spurt.
Schisandra: Your body is particularly prone to infections following birth, whether you deliver vaginally or via c-section. Avoiding any vaginal penetration, including tampons, for 6 weeks following birth to avoid an infection. Using adaptogens to boost your immune system can help fight off infections that enter the body. Packed with antioxidants and polyphenols, schisandra is a great natural defence mechanism to fend off infections. This is also a great herb to help with postpartum healing.
Holy Basil (Tulsi): The baby blues is a natural, hormonal process that can really impact postpartum enjoyment. Adaptogens have mood boosting properties that can help counter some of the emotional roller coaster that comes along with the process. Holy basil is also a galactagogue and can be helpful to induce milk supply.
Ginseng Root: First off, there are a few forms of ginseng. Panax ginseng is not safe for nursing, but Siberian or Indian ginseng is. Ginseng is recommended once bleeding stops as an energy replenishing herb. Adaptogens are not stimulants, in which can crash, thus having addictive effects.
Moringa: Has anti-inflammatory properties, such as isothiocyanates, flavonoids, and phenolic acid, so consider this your natural Advil. It’s also a galactagogue, helping boost your milk supply. It’s extremely rich in nutrients, which can help with the postpartum depletion that occurs after blood loss in birth. Nutrients like calcium, protein, potassium, iron, zinc and vitamins A, B and C are all so important for postpartum healing.
• Antibacterial plants: Sage, Thyme, Rosemary
• Uterine Toners: Witch Hazel Leaf/Bark, Mugwort, Red Clover
• Anodynes: Rose Petals, Chamomile, Calendula and Lavender
• Anti-inflammatory plants: Yarrow, St. John’s Wort, Frankincense
• Epson salts also are a great addition to herbal soaks & baths
Reclaiming Orgasm After Birth
Take a Look: Grab a hand mirror and inspect your vulva and vaginal entrance
Light Touch: start lightly pressing on your labia and the entrance of your vaginal/perineum
Internal Touch and Pull: hook thumb or finger just inside your vaginal entrance and lightly pull up
Scar Tissue Desensitization: using your thumb or tool, start to massage, pull, and stretch h the scar
Own Your O: have one yourself and have awareness of how your muscles are functioning and blood flow movement
Support: have support partner